Resistance Never Sleeps: How to Protect Your Confidence When It Counts Most

Lately, we keep coming back to the same thing in conversation after conversation: things feel uncertain right now. Private equity activity is reshaping the landscape. AI has people rattled about what comes next. And in the middle of all that noise, we keep hearing the same theme come up — people feel stuck. Not because they lack talent or drive, but because something invisible keeps pulling them back right when they're closest to breaking through.

There's a name for that something. Steven Pressfield, a former Marine turned author, spent a career writing about it in books like The War of Art. He calls it resistance — the internal force that shows up any time we try to do something that matters. Not just once. Not just at the beginning. For the rest of your life, in different forms, at different moments.

It Never Goes Away — Even at the Top

One of the stories that has stuck with us most involves the actor Henry Fonda. Even in his 70s, after a career spent on stages in front of audiences, he'd still get physically sick with nerves before a performance. Decades of experience. Thousands of shows. And the fear never left.

That's the part people get wrong about resistance — they assume it's something you eventually outgrow. You don't. You just get better at recognizing it and moving through it anyway. Whether it shows up as pre-show panic at the starting line or self-sabotage right near the finish line, resistance attacks every major transition. And here's the twist: it tends to hit hardest not when you're just dipping your toes in, but right before the breakthrough, exactly when you're closest to pulling it off.

The Moment It Shows Up Most

We think about this constantly when mentoring people who are stepping into something new — a promotion, a new business, a new level of responsibility they've worked toward for years.

We recently talked with someone who spent over two decades working toward the day he'd finally take full ownership of his company. When that day arrived, instead of feeling ready, he froze. Not because he lacked the skills — he'd clearly earned the role — but because stepping fully into it meant he could no longer lean on someone else when things got hard. That's resistance. It shows up disguised as doubt, as hesitation, as "maybe I'm not actually ready," right when you've done more than enough to prove otherwise.

The hard truth is that people are watching how you respond in that moment — your team, your peers, the people counting on you to lead. If resistance wins and you shrink, it becomes a lot harder to bring everyone else along with you.

Protecting Your Confidence Is the Real Skill

Years ago, we asked a coach a simple question: out of everything you've ever taught, what's the one tool that matters most? He didn't hesitate. He said that no matter what, you have to protect your confidence. Learn to do that, and almost nothing can stop you.

It sounds simple. It isn't easy. Because resistance is specifically designed to attack you where you're most vulnerable — your confidence itself.

We've seen this play out firsthand too. Early in our coaching journey, before there was much success to point to, doubt crept in about whether any of it would work. And years before that, during Jerry’s time as a college walk-on, resistance crept in right before final cuts — convincing him that playing didn't even matter, just to shield him from the sting of failing at something I cared about. It wasn't true. It was resistance, dressed up as an excuse, protecting against the risk of failing at something that actually mattered.

That's usually how it works. When things get hard, our minds don't announce "this is resistance." They just quietly hand us a reasonable-sounding story about why it's not going to work anyway.

What Does Resistance Look Like for You?

Not everyone experiences it the same way. For some, it's overplanning and never quite starting. For others, it's starting everything and finishing nothing. For some, it's picking a fight or finding a reason to walk away right before the win. The form changes — the presence of it doesn't.

So here's the question worth sitting with: when you're closest to something that actually matters to you, what does resistance look like in your life? And once you can name it, you can start doing the one thing that actually matters — protecting your confidence anyway, and showing up regardless.

Naming resistance is one thing. Building the systems and support to push through it, every single time, is another.

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